Frank Coulson - A Man Who Truly Made A Difference

Last Friday I was travelling home from New York City and started a conversation with the man sitting next to me. In short order we figured out that he was a good friend of the daughter of a dear friend of ours. A few minutes later another connection was made. A colleague travelling with him used to work at Goldman Sachs in the Philadelphia office. In chatting with this gentleman the conversation quickly went to someone I knew we both knew well from that office, Frank Coulson.

Frank was a partner in the fixed income division and a truly legendary bond salesman. I told my new friend that I would very likely not be on this plane, not be doing what I am doing now, if it were not for Frank Coulson. I went on to tell him the story about the largest single trade I ever did as a mortgage backed bond trader at Goldman, and that trade was with Frank. The story of that trade is forever captured in the book “More Than 85 Broads: Women Making Career Choices, Taking Risks, and Defining Success on Their Own Terms.”

The story contrasts how two men treated a young woman (me) on the trading floor one particular day, doing her best to be the best trader she could be. Frank was the hero of the story. Frank was the hero because on that day he trusted me, despite my inexperience, to execute a huge trade for his best client when he could have easily gone over my head. That day, that trade, that TRUST truly changed my life. It was that day I realized I could survive and maybe even thrive as a Wall Street Trader.

After sharing that story I went back to my seat, grabbed my journal and started writing about Frank. Today I heard that Frank Coulson passed away. My deepest condolences go to Frank’s family. He was a spectacular man and I am grateful to have known and worked with him. He really did change my life.

Jennifer Buffet and Women Moving Millions

(From www.jackizehner.com November 13th)

I have the honor and pleasure of knowing and working with one of the most noteable women philanthropists of our time, Jennifer Buffet, President of the Novo Foundation. Today I am off to Washington, DC, where I am Co Chairing a Women Moving Millions event with her and the equally fabulous Ambassador Swanee Hunt, President of The Hunt Alternatives Fund. This is our final event of the year and it promised to be amazing. Guest speakers include Former Speaker Nancy Pelosi, Congresswoman Nan Hayworth, Treasure of the United States Rosie Rios, Senator Kirsten Gillibrand, Congresswoman Donna Edwards, Barbara Lee - Founder and President of the Barbara Lee Family Foundation and many more.

We are focussing on three main topic and issue areas: Advocacy - what it is and how to do it, Women Stopping War and Economic Security Through a Gender Lens. I will be sure to report back.

A fabulous friend and philanthropic consultant Tuti Scott ( of Imagine Philantrhopy) shared this with me yesterday about Jennifer. Very much worth sharing. Jennifer we love you and appreciate all you do to make the world a better place.

Jennifer Buffett – 10 Concepts worth Sharing

By Tuti B. Scott ( Imagine Philanthropy)

Jennifer Buffett will change the world. You may not know her now, but when all is said and done I believe she will own the title, The First Lady of Women’s Social Change Philanthropy. Jennifer is the life size symbol of NoVo – to alter, invent. The NoVo Foundation she created with her husband Peter is based on the premise that if you give a girl an opportunity, she will become a successful woman who will in turn create successful communities, businesses, and families. Jennifer’s story is just that.

After deep examination of the focus of their philanthropy and a personal examination of her own expression of her values and influence, Jennifer is speaking around the world sharing her personal story and experiences. She and her husband Peter spent years examining the interrelation between systems, culture, and relationships to determine place of impact and opportunity for change before launching the largest foundation serving women and girls, the NoVo Foundation. Jennifer has incredible perspective to offer activists, social change drivers, and philanthropists and after hearing her recently, I distilled these ten concepts that are worth sharing;

1. Look at the roots of the problems, examine patterns and themes and find the programs and the stories that rule the world and which ones make sense.

2. Acknowledge two conflicting truths: 1. Girls and women are the primary drivers of change. 2. Cultural attitudes and systems put girls in a vicious cycle; blaming them and affirming that they are not valued. The girl effect demonstrates that if you invest in a girl, her family thrives, she contributes to her community, and eventually her country succeeds.

3. Invest in places where value is held and not yet recognized. Note: there are 600 million adolescent girls living in the developing world who are currently ‘undervalued assets’.

4. Value balance and partnership and affirm feminine values.

5. Encourage women to use their voice, say what is want and needed, take credit, and invite men to join as equal partners and co-creators.

6. As a woman, choose to be seen and heard and work to change the course of the boat named Earth Community.

7. Improve gender dynamics by recognizing that the qualities in the masculine ‘toolbox’ - force, hierarchy, punitive, and a focus on head not heart - are learned, normalized, and internalized.

8. Honor and showcase the characteristics found in the feminine toolbox; listening, connectedness, experiential learning, honoring innate cycles and rhythms, and wholeness.

9. Establish learning environments that allow for inquiry and participation.

10. As conduits of feminine energies, allow the most precious qualities of clarity, strength, knowing and vulnerability of yourself to come into full light.

Thank you Tuti. Well said.

( Pictured with Linda Basch - President of the National Council for Research on Women, Jennifer Buffet, Lisa Witter - Partner, Fenton Communications and author of "The She Spot", yours truly)

Evelyn Lauder - Honoring a True Wonder Woman

On November 12th the world lost a very special woman and one of the leading philanthropists of our time, Evelyn Lauder. The cause of her death, at the age of 75, were complications of non-genetic ovarian cancer. She is survived by her beloved family: husband Leonard A. Lauder, her two sons Willian and Gary and five grandchildren. Though I could not attend the funeral as I was at a Women Moving Millions event in Washington, my thoughts and prayers were with her family. This week, while in New York City, I did have the opportunity to meet with Myra Biblowit, the magnificent President of the Breast Cancer Research Foundation. I left the BCRF board last year when I moved to Park City, but what an honor and a privilege it was to serve on it alongside Myra and Mrs. Lauder.

Mrs. Lauder’s life is a remarkable American success story. Born in Vienna, Austria, her parents fled from Europe with her during the Nazi occupation, eventually settling in New York City. Asleep when the ship bringing them to the United States arrived in New York Harbor, she awoke to see the Statue of Liberty. Mrs. Lauder would remember, and be inspired by, that symbol of hope for the rest of her life.

Mrs. Lauder was a philanthropic leader in New York City. She served on the Board of Overseers atMemorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center and on the boards of the Central Park Conservancy and the Evelyn and Leonard Lauder Foundation. Many other charities also benefited from Mrs. Lauder’s thoughtful guidance and renowned generosity, including nonprofits devoted to health and human services, education and inner-city schools, the environment, women’s causes, and the arts.

The public perhaps best knew Mrs. Lauder for her work in bringing global awareness to women’s health, a passion that stemmed from a personal experience with early stage breast cancer. In 1992, she co-created the Pink Ribbon, now recognized as the worldwide symbol of breast health, and launched the Estée Lauder Companies Breast Cancer Awareness (BCA) Campaign (www.bcacampaign.com). Each year, the BCA Campaign raises funds through its brands, employees, and retail partners around the world to help support breast cancer research. Mrs. Lauder founded The Breast Cancer Research Foundation (BCRF) in 1993 to provide crucial funds to breast cancer medical and scientific researchers around the world. BCRF (www.bcrfcure.org) has raised more than $350 million and supports 186 researchers globally. She believed wholeheartedly the the prevention and cure for breast cancer resides in funding innovative research.

I would be hard pressed to name a woman who more fully used her resources - her money, her heart, her corporate affiliation, her business savvy, her network, her time - to make a difference in the lives of others. She boldly stepped out in front to be a leader in this movement to find a cure for all kinds of cancers. After sharing many stories about Mrs. Lauder over coffee at the Palace Diner on 57th street with Myra we ended thinking that "so many have great ideas, but only a small percent act on them, and an even smaller percentage result in sustainable action." Without Mrs. Lauder there would be no pink ribbon, their would be no BCRF, and the movement to end breast cancer would not be one of the most well funded movements of our time.

In lieu of flowers, the family has asked that contributions be made to The Breast Cancer Research Foundation, Evelyn Lauder Founder’s Fund, 60 E. 56 St., 8th floor, New York, NY 10022, or www.bcrfcure.org . Please consider a donation. Blessings...............

John Hunstman

Just shortly before John Huntsman announced that he would be running for President on June 21st Greg and I had the opportunity to meet him at a small gathering in Salt Lake City.

First impressions? He was a very good speaker, poised, and delivered a strong message which he undoubtedly will be taking on the road. The message was a call for an industrial revolution in the US and renewed faith in the innate strength and leadership of America and the American people.

While serving as Ambassador to China he saw first hand the growth potential of that country but he was bothered how it seemed that many in the US were ready to hand over the top dog position in terms of being a global power. He does not see it that way. He sees the US as having so much that a country like China aspires toward and the call is for the American people to see it that way too.

Are US debt levels unacceptable to him? Yes. Is there a need for tax reform, energy reform, regulatory reform and health care reform? Yes. Is he tired of the divisiveness in this country? Yes. Are lessons is civil discourse needed? Yes. In his short remarks to a very friendly audience filled with close friends and family members he has enthusiastically received. Could he make a great President? Way to early to tell but there is no doubt about his aspirations.

For the record I am neither Democrat nor Republican. I am Canadian!

Gold

It has been a while since I have written about GOLD. For that matter it has been a while since I have written about the markets in general. John Hathaway is a personal friend, a lovely human being, and a brilliant investor. Read what he has to say about GOLD and perhaps more importantly, the US dollar. I agree.

The price of gold is more about the declining value of the US dollar, they it is about an intrinsic value of the commodity. He makes some strong claims in this piece including this one about how the government has artificially held down nominal interest rates - "That amounts to outright theft of wealth by government from its citizens and more recently non-U.S. investors." Bottom line - not good. Stay with the piece, it is a long one, but indeed very educational.

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Pat Mitchell is one of my favorite women on the planet. I can think of few others that advocate for the advancement of women and girls more then Pat. She serves as President for The Paley Center of Media which "with locations in New York and Los Angeles, leads the discussion about the cultural, creative, and social significance of television, radio, and emerging platforms for the professional community and media-interested public."

In a blog posted today she talks about a new initiative called She’s Making Media. It is a "new series of programs that puts a slightly different lens on the subject of women’s role in media. We are going to celebrate, curate, and build a special collection (and a new television series) with women who are making media for a very specific purpose." The program was launched earlier this month with playwright, performer, artist, and activist Eve Ensler. "She is making media that makes the world safer for women and girls."

At our recent Women Moving Millions gathering in April we had the pleasure of participating in a conversation with both these amazing women. ( photo above ) The topic of the discussion was how to leverage media to create social change. There is likely no better example of that then the work of Eve Ensler. "From her productions of the groundbreaking play, The Vagina Monologues (5000 performances a year in 140 countries raising 80 million dollars to end violence against women and girls) to her television documentaries, books and social media campaigns, Eve and V-DAY, the organization she built, are inspiring examples of making media that matters and, in fact, changes lives. My(Pat's) hour interview with Eve, featuring excerpts from the plays and films, will be posted on Paley Center’s video section within the next couple of weeks and an edited version will be part of a new TV series, network to be announced later." Check back to the Paley site to watch.

One thing that Eve said that has really stuck with me is this concept of "thingafying." The idea that if we just do this thing, or that thing, then problems will be solved. In the world of economic development that thing might we provide a girl with an education, or access to health services, or a micro loan. The reality is that issues like violence and poverty are very complex and we need to acknowledge that complexity and structure it in to the solutions we are championing.

Thanks to Eve and Pat for the amazing role models you are to all of us. Love you.

Women and Ambition

Please click here for a co-authored piece I wrote with the most fabulous Courtney Martin on women and ambition just published with Alternet. Coincidently I was just interviewed by the Center for Work Life Policy for an article on this same topic. Bottom line is the need to our own success while "acknowledging the ways in which we continue to benefit from unearned privilege." I hope you like the piece!

Courtney is a fabulous feminist writer and speaker. She is the author of three books DO IT ANYWAY: The New Generation of Activists, Click: When We Knew We Were Feminists, and Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters. I love them all. Every single one of them is a must read and a PERFECT gift for a graduating girl.

The OPED Project

I had the pleasure of speaking with Katie Orenstein today, the Founder and Director of THE OPED PROJECT. Over many years I have heard so many incredible things about Katie and it was a pleasure to finally speak to her regarding her work. If I was putting together a list of "wonder women", Katie would be on it. What is The Oped Project you ask?

The OpEd Project is an initiative to expand the range of voices we hear from in the world, with an immediate focus on increasing the volume of women thought leaders in the public sphere to a tipping point. Since women currently do not submit to key opinion forums with anywhere near the frequency that men do—and because these gateway forums feed all other media and drive thought leadership and policy—we target and train women experts at top universities, think tanks, nonprofits, corporations and community organizations to write op-eds and more broadly to take thought leadership positions in their fields; we connect them with a national network of high-level mentor-editors, and we channel them to the media gatekeepers who need them, across all platforms.

Sound cool? If you are looking for training on how to expand your sphere of influence please check out this group. The scope of work they are doing is amazing.

Kathy LeMay featured in CURVE Magazine

Sometimes I pull out a piece of paper and just start writing down everything I am thankful for. I usually do this when I am feeling ( or acting) especially selfish, or angry, or sad, or disappointed, or impatient. Inevitably the name Kathy LeMay appears on that list because Kathy is one special lady. If you read this article, you will begin to get a sense of why.

Why do I love this woman so much? One of the reasons is that she has this way of helping me be my best self. She helps me believe that anything is possible and that I, little me, can really make a difference in this world. She does this for so many. Besides that she is just brilliant, loving, generous, and a person who shows up!

Last year her first book came out called "The Generosity Plan: Sharing your Time, Treasure and Talent to Change the World." Buy it. Give it. Have Kathy the rock star public speaker come talk at your gathering or event. Go Kathy!

Women, Money, and Power...and superheros

My most perfect and amazing visit to NYC continued yesterday. We ( me, my 11 year old daughter and au pair/assistant Mandy ) started the day on Wall Street. I walked with Allie on the exact path I walked thousands of times from the subway to the entrance of 85 BROAD street. I remembered so vividly 23 years ago when I made my way for the very first time, having arrived hours early for day one as an analyst and I sat outside on the benches, shaking, unable to really comprehend how I went from a very small town in Canada to NYC. I decided to film a little video clip in front of the now abandoned headquarters for Goldman Sachs which I will post when I return. Has so much changed for women on Wall Street? Sadly, no.

We did out little tour of downtown including the NY Stock Exchange, the Fed, and of course a picture with the bull, before heading back uptown for lunch, and shopping. I slid in a meeting for Women Moving Millions before attending the SOFA Opening night art show with my buddy and collector Ann Kaplan, a board member of the Museum of ART and Design. It is official. I am a collector of superhero art. The very first piece that caught my attention as I walked in the building was a huge, 68 by48, comic book/paper piece. The title - Where are our heros now? A close up of the piece is pictured and it is made entirely of pieces cut from comic books. A sign you might ask? YES, absolutely. The world needs superheros and darn it I am going to work on that superhero screenplay this year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But the concept is bigger then that. The concept for me is that everyone can be a superhero. Everyone and anyone can and should aspire to be the best they can be and it is in living to that potential that we will create a more just and equitable world for all. "Be the change you want to see in the world."

So that leads me in to dinner where the conversation was about women using their power. My dinner companions were two of the most fabulous women - Author Leslie Bennetts ( of The Feminine Mistake and a contributing editor for Vanity Fair) and Katharine Henderson, President of Auburn Seminary and author of God's Troublemakers - How Women of Faith are Changing the World. I have to run off to a 3 hour Women Moving Millions meeting so cannot write fully about it now BUT let me say this - it is about empowerment. It is about us all developing confidence in their own capacities to make a difference. ( the art piece???) More specifically it is about our economic empowerment meaning that we choose to use our financial resources more fully to drive the change we want to see. Ponder that today.... Another day in New York - yeah me!

Connected: An Autoblogography about Love, Death & Technology

I recently watched Tiffany Shlain's documentary Connected: An Autoblogography about Love, Death, & Technology. It was one of the documentaries in the Sundance Film Festival and won a Women in Film Award. I had the pleasure of meeting Tiffany and she is one passionate and interesting woman.

"Connected explores the visible and invisible connections linking major issues of our time-the environment, consumption, population growth, technology, human rights, the global economy-while searching for her place in the world during a transformative time in her life. Employing a splendidly imaginative combination of animation and archival footage, plus several surprises, Tiffany Shlain constructs a chronological tour of Western modernization through the work of her late father, Leonard Shlain, a brain surgeon and best-selling author of Art and Physics and The Alphabet Versus the Goddess. "

Take a look at the trailer below and watch for the film to be released.

A Feminist Bash plus Miss Representation

Okay I don't meet to brag, but we just had a heck of a party! ( click here from FB) About 100 people came including our guests of honor Gloria Steinem, Geena Davis, Pat Mitchell, and Amy Richards. Whole teams came from three fabulous documentaries (!WAR, Connected and Miss Representation) including the filmmakers. There were also other actors, filmmakers, activists and all around fabulous people. If you are a feminist in Park City, this was the place to be! The spotlight was on Geena for her fabulous work at the Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media . If you are not aware of the research she has done please find it on her web-site. The facts around women's lack of representation in the media, or the distorted view of them, will shock you in to action. Please consider supporting her important work!

My idea for next year is to gather together women writers, producers, filmmakers and other change makers to help make SUNDANCE and the industry in general much more gender balanced. I am so inspired by the films I have seen over the past few days that deliver the powerful message that we can all make a difference.

MISS REPRESENTATION - link to YOUTUBE clip

Yesterday I attended the premiere of this fabulous film that Greg and I were honored to support. This documentary by Jennifer Siebel Newson ( pictured center above) "explores women's under-representation in positions of power and influence in America and challenges the limited portrayal of women in mainstream media." It was extremely well done delivering powerful facts, images and opinions, but it is also a call to action. Please visit their website to learn more www.missrepresentation.org. I am excited to be a part of their outreach.

Here are a few facts from the film - WOMEN ARE

- 3% of clout positions in the mainstream media

- 3% of Fortune CEOs

- 7% of mainstream film directors

- 16% of film protagonists

- 17% of Congress while women make up 51% of the population

Also present at the party was the founder of Common Sense Media, Jim Steyer. If you do not know about this site, you must. I introduced him to my son Matthew who loves the site, and they had a great talk about Halo. How cool is that?

"Common Sense Media is dedicated to improving the lives of kids and families by providing the trustworthy information, education, and independent voice they need to thrive in a world of media and technology.We exist because our nation's children spend more time with media and digital activities than they do with their families or in school, which profoundly impacts their social, emotional, and physical development . As a non-partisan, not-for-profit organization, we provide trustworthy information and tools, as well as an independent forum, so that families can have a choice and a voice about the media they consume."

More film commentary to come this week!

Sundance - Report on Films

At 4 am my eyes popped open thinking about Sundance. (from FB) Not surprising given the two fabulous and provocative films I have seen over the past two days.

The first was the premiere of "Sing Your Song" a film by Susanne Rostok, a biographical documentary of the life of Harry Belafonte. His "groundbreaking career personifies the American Civil Rights Movement and impacted many other social justice movements." The filmmaker had collected over 800 hours of film on this extraordinary life. Mr. Belafonte told of how his mother taught him to wake up every day looking to right an injustice in the world. This is the same message that I am trying to live by, and am trying to teach my children - to do "what you can with what you have where you are." What was so incredible was how he used his platform, used is power, used his relationships, to help others. This is what the world needs a heck of a lot more of. I cannot wait to share this movie with my Women Moving Millions sisters ( and a few brothers) as that is exactly why this initiative was created. "To those to which much is given, much is expected."

Yesterday we saw a feature film called "The Ledge" by Director/ Screenwriter Gavin Wiesen. "Atop a high-rise building, Gavin, a young hotel manager, is about to end his life. Hollis, a detective whose own world has just been turned upside down, is dispatched to the scene. As Hollis tried to persuade Gavin not to jump, each man begins to open up about his past, and we discover that neither of them is convinced that his life is worth living." The film stars Charlie Hunnman, Liv Tyler, Patrick Wilson and Terrance Howard ( who were all excellent!!) who were all there for post film Q and A. Patrick's character Joe was a fundamentalist Christian who we find 'rescued' his gorgeous and docile bride. Charlie, the 'happy go lucky' neighbor, an atheist , falls for her, and her for him. I won't say more about the plot but it is filled with temptation, tragedy, and moral dilemmas. Ultimately it is about forgiveness, grace and perhaps event salvation. Faith is forefront. Love it. What I did not love is that I asked this question to the crew - "This movie is about one's struggle with faith. What did you learn about your own faith during the filming and would you like to share your faith with the audience?" The crowd cheered the question but that actors ducked answering. Sorry but that was lame. Why is one willing to get on the big screen and play a fundamentalist Christian, and not willing to comment about how you could or could not relate to the character." It was a moment for them to real about it, which was of course the point of the film and they did not. Very disappointing. Very.

Last night we attended a gathering for Impact Partners, a film investment group that funds social impact documentaries. They have three films in the festival - !WAR, Hell and Back Again and Connected: An Autobiography about Love, Death and Technology. They all sound extraordinary and I am hoping to see them. The filmmakers were there and the stories about how much passion went in to creating this films moved me. I have found my new love, Documentary Films. Also there were two filmmakers pitching their projects. The first will be about acid attacks on women in Pakistan and one man, a doctor, who is doing something about it. The second is about the Biosphere Two Project. Amazing. ( click here for the film guide)

My fabulous feminist house guests arrived last night for the Premiere of "Miss Representation" today. I am so excited which is likely why my eyes popped open at 4. Yes it is fun seeing movie stars, but activists and change makers are my heros. I suggest the cast of "The Ledge" come to this film for a little inspiration of how to not fear putting who YOU are out there. For that matter they should also search out Mr. Belafonte for an amazing example of a man who leverages his celebrity and is not afraid to share his values off the screen.

My FAV TED talks from TEDWOMEN 2010

I am so sorry this is so late in posting. ( click here from FB ) I have been waiting for more talks to be posted before sharing and they are still not all up but here it goes! Below are my FAVs in no particular order.

I have to give a huge shout out to Pat Mitchell, The President of the Paley Center for Media, who was instrumental in making this event happen, and a co-host of the whole thing. I have both the honor and pleasure of working with Pat and she is truly one of the most brilliant, warm and committed women I have ever known.

New Yorker cartoonist Liza Donnelly (TED talks) tackles global issues with humor, intelligence and wit. Her latest project supports the United Nations initiative cartooning for peace. Her talk was absolutely hilarious and a must watch when it comes available. I had the opportunity to talk with her a little and she is a lovely person.

Documentary filmmakers Beverly and Dereck Joubert (TED talks) have worked to conserve wildlife for more than 25 years. As National Geographic explorers in residence, the couple influences public policy and perceptions. Their video showed a herd of lions taking down an elephant. It was breathtaking.

Stephen Lewis (TED talks) advocates for the victims of Africa's HIV/AIDS pandemic, and believes that gender lies at the heart of the problem-and the solution. Oh my gosh this guy was amazing. To here a MAN talk about Why Women and Girls is so powerful. A quote " Gender Equality Now or Never!" Check back to find the video....

Courtney E. Martin (TED talks) chronicles-and encourages-the current generation of young activists and feminists. Courtney is a friend and i completely adore her! She's an editor at feministing.com and author of Do It Anyway: The New Generation Of Activists. ( pictured above) Again, check back for the talk.

Jacqueline Novogratz (TED talks) founded and leads Acumen Fund, a nonprofit that takes a businesslike approach to improving the lives of the poor. I am a proud supporter of the Acumen Fund and Jacqueline is an amazing woman and leader.

Tony Porter (TED talks) is an educator and activist who is internationally recognized for his effort to end violence against women. Tony shared his personal experience and you could here a pen drop. Violence against women is a men's issue!!!!!! You must watch and learn about the 'man box."

In Hans Rosling's (TED talks) hands, data sings . Global trends in health and economics come to vivid life. And the big picture of global development-with some surprisingly good news-snaps into sharp focus. This guy is a gifted presenter, no wonder he ranks amongst TED's top talks.

As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg (TED talks) juggles the tasks of monetizing the world's largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged. A GREAT talk for all aspiring professionals. I had the opportunity to meet her at dinner and she seems truly lovely.

Halla Tomasdottir (TED talks), co-founder if Audur Capital, has been instrumental in rebuilding Iceland's economy since the nation nearly went bankrupt in 2008. Her approach: applying female values to financial advice. I have written about Halla before as we were sisters in a former life. We met last year at the Global Forum for Women and the Economy and we have been connected every since. She rocks!

I truly hope this becomes an annual event. It was great.

Eve Ensler's List of Most Powerful Feminists

Eve Ensler was asked to create a list for FORBES ( click here from FB) of the the most powerful feminists. Cool. I wish I could say I know all these women, but only one, Pat Mitchell, do I now well. To see them all, click here. ( it is a slide show)

Eve would most certainly be on the top of my last of powerful and influential feminists. Eve is a role model in how you can leverage your skills, your passions, your platform to change the world. Big time! Her cause? To end violence against Women. I am a proud supporter of V-Day and I hope you are too! Violence is not a women's issue it is a human rights issue. I have had the pleasure of meeting Eve many times and she is the real deal.

Another amazing woman who has dedicated her life to ending violence against women is Jodie Evans of Code Pink. Jodie is a sister in the Women Moving Millions Movement, that I am honored to be a part of. I have only seen her wear PINK. Talk about wearing your values, again, totally inspiring. Spend some time on the CODE PINK web-site it is an amazing resource for all who care about human rights.

What is a feminist? Feminism refers to movements aimed at establishing and defending equal political, economic, and social rights and equal opportunities for women. ( Wikipedia)

( Please note there is nothing in the definition about being anti-male or 'radical'. By this definition I truly hope everyone sees themselves as a feminist.)

SPARK!! Courtney Martin and Geena Davis

I am a mother of a bright, kind, wonderful, beautiful 10 year old girl. (click here from FB) Thankfully she has zero interest in boys, has not asked to get her ears pierced, dresses like a 10 year old should, and has rarely watched anything more that a PG rated movie. That said I worry... I worry about the highly sexualized society we live in, and the pressure on girls to grow up way to fast.

I recently wrote to my friend Courtney Martin, a brilliant young feminist writer, about this issue, begging her to please do something !!!!!! Not surprisingly she said.. "we are" and directed me to SPARK.

"SPARK is both a Summit and a Movement designed to push back against the increasingly sexualized images of girlhood in the media and create room for whole girls and healthy sexuality. SPARK will engage teen girls to be part of the solution rather than to protect them from the problem."

They have an upcoming summit in NY on October 22nd, and I wish I could be there. Their keynote speaker is the most wonderful Geena Davis - Actor ( of course ) but also founder of the Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media. I have had the opportunity to meet with Geena many times and I will tell you, this woman is the real deal. She is leveraging her celebrity to bring attention to these issues and I lift her up as someone who should inspire as all. If you have not signed up for the Institute's media alerts, do so now. It is an awesome service.

More on Courtney... (pictured)

"Courtney E. Martin is a writer, teacher, and speaker, living in Brooklyn. Her latest book Do It Anyway: The New Generation of Activists was just published to critical acclaim. Seal Press published her first anthology, co-edited with J. Courtney Sullivan, entitled Click: When We Became Feminists, last spring."

I am on a whirlwind trip to Washington ( for fun), Boston for the "Closing the Gender Gap Conference", then NY for a bunch of meetings. More next week.

Trust and Kindness

I am back from a 6 day whirlwind New York visit, my first since moving to Park City. I have so much to write about I cannot even stand it but tonight the post will be brief. I attended a three day retreat for Women Moving Millions and we had some very talented facilitators and some amazing speakers. ( more on that tomorrow) In opening the session they asked all the participants to do two things. The first - to look around the room, look at the faces present and imagine that you could trust every single person completely. Further imagine yourself as being completely trustworthy to others. Completely. She gave us time to digest that feeling and WOW. YOU think about that. Think about how your life, your actions, might be different if everyone you came across was completely trustworthy. In the moment and for ever more. Second she asked us to not be nice. Not nice. But she then asked us to make sure we were kind. Nice is telling someone they look like they lost weight when they haven't because you know it would mean a lot to them to hear you say it. Kind is helping them to in fact lose it. ( my example) This set the stage for the whole retreat and I am taking these two things out with me in the world. These are big ideas and I love them. The whole weekend was just such a gift. Such a blessing. Such a well of abundance and possibility. I will look forward to sharing more.

"How to Measure Your Life"

I woke this beautiful Sunday morning to find this essay in my in box, sent to me by one of my best friends. This is yet another example, to me, of how I know God is real. Two days ago during our 17 hour car ride home, my husband and I talked about the following:

- Are we living our priorities? If not, why not, and how do we change it. Further to that, we asked ourselves what we care about and is how we spend our time and energy in alignment?

- Is our work aligned with who we are and what we want to be in this world?

- We both have SO MUCH we want to do, so how do we not feel overwhelmed and stressed about it all the time? How do we live in the moment more?

- We have two children. Are we doing a good job parenting them? Now that they are 13 and 10 how do we stop using the tools of reward and punishment, and encourage independent decision making and choices? How do we help them become good and moral citizens of the world?

This essay by the most incredible Clay Christensen answers all those questions and more. Coming from a business background with an obsession for leadership development, it could not have been written better. I had the honor of meeting Clay years ago while at Goldman and thought him incredible then, and incredible now.

For Clay, in case this blog entry gets back to you ( and I hope it does). Thank you for this gift. I share your faith and it has been the guiding force in my life as well. Your decision regarding not to play on Sunday was the right one indeed. I will share this essay with all I know, and in particular my children. We will be praying for you in your transition and for your ongoing good health. Blessings....

Clay's bio. More articles by this author. His web-site.

Geena Davis on Gender Equality!

I have the pleasure of knowing Geena Davis and if I still were living in the New York area, I would have been meeting with her during her recent visit to promote gender equality in the media. (That said, Park City is beautiful!!) CNN reported on her visit. ( click here to read and watch) I would like to thank Geena for her incredible work. What we see on television and in movies matters. Her report on the gender balance in G rated movies and how it may affect our children's development is worth paying attention to. We live in a world that is half women, and half men, and we should seek for that balance in representation in media, in politics, in business and beyond. Of course that goal is not realistic in many contexts, but it the mindfulness of the need for it that will create change. Thanks again Geena for all you do!

Geena Davis Institute for Gender Media works with entertainment creators and companies, educates the next generation of content-creators, and informs the public about the need to increase the number of girls and women in media aimed at kids and to reduce stereotyping of both males and females.

Town and Country - The June Philanthropy Issue and Donna Karan

What a way to spend my last day in New York City prior to my move to Utah! I headed in bright and early yesterday to attend a special gathering at at a large investment bank - a gathering for Town and Country's annual philanthropy issue. This is my absolute favorite issue of the year of any magazine not only because of the feature articles on celebrity women that are using their power, influence and resources to make the world a better place, but also because their stories are written by great writers and my dear friends, Joanna Krotz and Leslie Bennetts.

The breakfast was in support of the United States Fund of Unicef, and specifically for their relief work in Haiti. The guest speakers were the most fabulous Donna Karan who I had the pleasure of meeting, as well as Malaak Compton-Rock, Corinne Woods and moderated by Juju Chang. A big WOW. Read all about these fabulous women in this month's issue. Also featured in the magazine are Lauren Bush and Sheryl WuDunn.

I left the breakfast feeling so inspired and so motivated to continue the work I am doing with the Women's Funding Network, Women Moving Millions and more. Though historically the majority of women's philanthropy has been grassroots or needs based I sense a change coming. I believe women are increasingly thinking about power, and how to use that power in alignment with their values to create change from the top down. We have to be thinking about how we change the decision making and allocation of resources that results in the injustices that we are locally funding to eliminate. In other words, we need to attack the cause and not just treat the symptoms. Donna Karan opened her remarks by taking about the feminine energy as it relates to sharing, caring and collaborating. Yes these are good things but I would like to include in this new energy more responsible, inclusive and responsible use of power. What does real feminine power look and feel like? I suggest we are just beginning to see it and need to lift up the stories of women that exemplify it.

(Please consider writing a letter to the editor at jennifer.eclipse@parsintl.com in support of the issue!)